on relationships again

Maybe we are all too preoccupied with the temporal and mundane things of this world that we fail to see the greater picture at stake. In all our hopeless and pointless comparisons, we all find importance in that material and physical state of the world, even our relationships. I never get it why girls can beat their boyfriends and seem so happy about it. I never get it why the vice versa happens too. Perhaps in my ideal view, love is a totally patient and others-centred characteristic that is patient, kind, gentle and sweet. Is beating others part of this love too? I can’t help but think that perhaps our relationships today simply too revolve around our own selfishness, not anymore that love which is never hurting, this relationship between 2 self-centred individuals is basically doomed to failure. Then again, the way bgr are now today, with the ostensible purpose of fun and experience, is a depressing sight. BGR seems nothing but an illusion of happiness and completeness, a chasing after the wind. Maybe i can forget the notion of liking someone, not that emotions are for me to control and manipulate, even my own...